Wednesday, August 6, 2008
2 What I Meant WAS.......
I will now put myself out there & say some more very honest things:
I don't think I'm perfect, in any way shape or form. Never have said that, & never will.
And yes, I realize that we all have things -- whether they be physical & mental aspects of ourselves -- that we are oversensitive about. And I'm certainly no exception: There are certainly some things about myself that I'm not exactly thrilled about, but the difference is that most times I can joke about those things, provided that the underlying intent is well-meant. (Witness my many jokes on this blog about me doing goofy things, making mistakes, running dog-slow, etc. And I can even make jokes about the things I don't like about my body: One example is a previous post I wrote about how my things & rear felt like they were shaking like thundering jello during one of my runs; in fact, at that particular time, I'd gained about 5+ pounds from not doing any physical exercise over the previous several weeks. But the point is that these are all things we can change. Yes, the back hair issue might be genetic, but there are things a person can do about it. One can choose to wear a shirt, for example. ;-) )
Most people who know me well know that I like to joke around. My sense of humor can sometimes be sharp, but my intentions are rarely to be cruel.
So, in other words, I am really not a heartless &*#$%. I was just having a moment of unfiltered opining. And I am not going to apologize for having an opinion. However, I would like to apologize if I've unintentionally hurt people's feelings.
I was telling how I honestly feel about it, & dispensing advice about what can be done to rectify the issue.
Also, my intent was to poke fun at the situation, & of course to give men a little taste of how it feels to be female, & to be held to such high standards by society. The article about body hair was meant to show men how it feels to put the shoe on the other foot for a change. Women in society are expected to do 5 zillion procedures in their beauty/self-care regimen, (or else the rest of the world will shriek in horror & dismay!), & frankly, it's just a tad bit uneven in that area. And in many instances, public disapproval isn't always a bad thing. Bad breath, body odor, yellow teeth, unkempt eyebrows, etc. -- these are issues that don't have to be issues for the majority of people. And there's a good reason why there's a public prohibition on these things.
Also for the record: I actually really DISLIKE the fact that men & women are so brutally judgmental about other people's physical features -- especially when it comes to the shape of their bodies or facial structure, etc., or infinitesimally small details about one's appearance -- but sorry, the issue of displaying large amounts of back hair in public is just not a minor issue in my book. ;-) I don't care what you do in private, but what I do take task with is primarily the issue of incredibly hairy people going shirtless at a public event like a road race. It's about public decorum, tastefulness, & what's appropriate in a public space.
And no, I don't think it's great that so many magazines today focus on the exterior shell without examining the interior one. But if you look at the posts in my blog, you will see that I primarily focus on the interior/mental aspects of sports. I'm all about exploring the deeper philosophical questions, & typically don't pay much attention to superficial things.
I know that I've touched on a nerve when it comes to this topic. The irony is that I bet people wouldn't have blinked an eye if I'd decided to discuss best grooming practices for hirsute women instead. ;-)
Most of us have a choice: We can choose to improve or we can say "I don't care." And I was primarily taking task with those men who have an "I don't care" attitude about their grooming & personal appearance.
Yes, we are born the way we are born. But my point is that we should care about showing the world the best version of ourselves. I think that the era of "letting it all hang out" is really past its prime.
OK, next topic.....